Tuesday, December 15, 2009


Lisa Abrams

Well, I would have never guessed from your pic, you are beautiful. I believe that there is no "getting over" things. You take what life has given you and you learn from it. I spent years thinking that I had "gotten over" the abuse I suffered at my stepfat...her's hands. Then I realized that my children's father was abusing them in much the same ... See More way, psychologically and physically. I panicked and attempted to reach out to the people in charge to save them from what I went through. It didn't do any good. Yet, I have now stepped back and realized that we have to fight this on a national level b/c family courts and local govt's do not want the responsibility for these decisions. If I had "gotten over it." I would not now be the advocate that I am. Never get over it - use it to make yourself stronger.

Monday, December 14, 2009


Lisa Abrams
Rosa, you are truly an inspiration to so many other people. this is what we need to tell the world, to tell those that attempt to abuse us and others. We will not be silenced, but will come out stronger than ever. It is the abuser who is to feel ashamed. Always remember, those that hurt you physically or emotionally do so because of something ... See Moremissing inside themselves and they have a desperate need to feel better. The only way they can do so is to put others down in order to make themselves seem better.


Darrell Matthews
So much POWER in your statements! And I agree totally, no matter how long it's been, the scars remain whether emotional or physical, and obviously with the physical scars come the emotioanl scars.We will continue pulling togehter, forward and direct to battle this horrific cycle, and it's people like you with such great courage and determination who make a difference.
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Sunday, December 13, 2009


Kim Chaisson
All of the men who are abusive, have no respect for woman, (that's obvious). They are weak and insecure emotionally. The only time they feel they have power or feel like a "man" is when they are controlling and abusing a woman who is physically weaker. But the advantage us woman have...is our mind and the strength within our souls to rise above the abuse, knowing we deserve much, much better!!!


You are acknowledged dear! In every day that you do wake Your life is a testament and a victory above the abuser. Let that be your guide you baby are a beautiful Survivor- in however you DO-do it- you do it with love and light. Be Proud of you- you are amazing!! B-)


Heidi Sullivan
We all love you Rosa & together we will all stand strong & fight to rid the world of bullies & abusers.To speak out is the only way. Cowards hate being exposed & it is a coward that abuses women & children. Darrell, you are wonderful because you are a man who can stand proud & know that you have a heart of gold. We need more men like you in the world who speak out against violence. XXX
Heidi Sullivan wrote this for me - A lot of us are survivors of abuse & I too realised the best way to stop abuse is to not be silent but to speak out & tell everyone. Don't feel ashamed because the person you are with has decided to abuse you behind closed doors. Silence will only allow the abuse to continue. These pe...rpetrators of domestic violence need to be exposed & publicly ... See Moreshamed into changing their ways. We must be silent no longer. There should be a central registry in every country where women can look up someone's name & see whether there is a history of domestic violence before getting involved with someone. Similar to the paedophile registry. These people need to be made submissive - just like they've tried to make their victims



Yesterday evening my two children and I had a very serious conversation in regards to Domestic Violence that, I sustained from there father. They wanted to know why am I speaking out so strongly now after all these years in silence about the horrible abuse that I suffered by the hands of there Dad?

The love that I have for my family is so overwhelming but I want them to realize that, the love that I have for myself is why I am able to speak out and why I determined to move forward for my justice. No matter how much I begged and pleaded for it to stop, it did not matter because in the end I am the one that is left with the marks of the past of abuse.

We can not judge, blame, guilt or make them feel shame to any victim or survivor of domestic violence.

It has been more then 20 years since Domestic Violence has entered into my life. My silence has caused me my vision. My silence almost destroyed me!

My father has been gone from my life for more then two years now and a day does not go by that I do not think of my papi and mami.

The day before my father died, he looked at me and said, “Continue to the fight, don’t give up”.

I made my peace with my ex husband and I am a stronger and determined woman then ever because I made my peace.

Forgiveness became very difficult for me because, each day that I waken I am reminded of the years of abuse that I endure.

I often think of women, children and men who are physically sacred from the abuse they suffered.

How many are left burns marks, stabs marks, lost of vision, limbs removed and so on. Each day they are reminded of plague that continues to inflict on many lives.

I have acknowledge all the wrong I did in my marriage to my children and to anyone that wants to know the truth but….I know that I will never receive the acknowledgement for the abuse that I have suffered by my ex husband hand and the Pa State Trooper.

May god bless all victims and survivors of Domestic Violence!

Thank you for your time and compassion.

Much love and respect,

Rosa Torres-Sadler